Let's be honest, how many times this week have you said you were "trying" to do something? If you're like most women with big dreams, that word is a constant companion. But what if I told you that the key to unlocking your potential is to stop trying and start doing? This isn't just a mindset shift; it's a strategy that moves you from a place of hesitation to a state of decisive action.
“I’m trying to figure it out.” “I’m trying to get my business off the ground.” “I’m trying to be more confident.”
Sound familiar? It’s the language of good intentions. But good intentions don’t build businesses or change lives. Action does. The word "trying" feels like progress, but it’s often just fear wearing a clever disguise.
The Real Reason You're Stuck in the "Trying" Trap
When you say, “I’m trying,” you’re creating a buffer between you and the potential for failure. It’s a subtle way of giving yourself an out. It implies effort without requiring commitment.
What you're really saying is:
- “I’m scared of getting it wrong, so I'll just dip my toe in.”
- “I’m waiting until I feel 100% ready (which is never).”
- “I want the results, but I’m afraid of the commitment it takes.”
This isn't a judgment—it's a diagnosis. Fear is a normal part of growth. But letting fear keep you in "trying mode" is a surefire way to stay stuck. Dipping your toe in the water doesn’t teach you how to swim. You have to decide to get in the pool.
Trying doesn’t create transformation. Decisive commitment does.
How to Stop Trying Start Doing: The Power of a Single Decision
I had a breakthrough moment in my own journey when I caught myself saying, “I’m trying to leave my corporate job.” I was reading all the books, making the vision boards, and thinking endlessly about it. I was doing everything except what mattered most.
I wasn’t deciding.
The moment I shifted from "I'm trying" to "I am leaving my job," everything changed. I stopped waiting and started planning. That’s when I embraced what I now call the C.B.D. Framework, and it became my GPS out of the "try trap" and into a life of aligned action.
Your Exit Plan: The C.B.D. Framework
This three-part framework is your blueprint for moving from hesitation to momentum.
Step 1: Commit
This is the non-negotiable first step. Commitment is a clean, sharp decision, not a vague hope. It’s the moment you take a deep breath and declare, “This is happening.”
You stop saying: “I’ll try and see if it works.” You start saying: “I am building this business, and I will learn as I go.”
A true commitment cuts off other possibilities. It removes the option of going backward. You don't need to know all 100 steps in the journey. You just need to take the first one without straddling the fence. That single, powerful decision is what ignites real change.
Step 2: Be
Before you can do the thing, you have to be the person. Start embodying the woman who has already achieved what you want. This is not "fake it 'til you make it." This is "be it 'til you become it."
Ask yourself:
- How does the woman who runs a successful business manage her morning?
- How does the confident woman speak to herself and others?
- What decisions does she make from a place of abundance, not fear?
Align your energy, your thoughts, and your daily habits with this version of you. When you start acting like her, you close the gap between who you are and who you want to be. Your actions will naturally follow your identity.
Step 3: Do — Take Aligned, Imperfect Action
Now, you move. Notice the words: aligned and imperfect. This isn't about hustle culture or burning yourself out. It's about taking small, consistent steps that are in harmony with the "Be" state you're cultivating. You don't have to get it perfect. You just have to get it going. Momentum is built from a series of small wins.
In fact, modern psychological research, like this article on the science of accomplishing goals, confirms that breaking down large objectives into smaller, concrete steps is a critical strategy for success. It reduces overwhelm and creates a feedback loop of accomplishment. So, instead of "start a business," your "do" might be "draft one paragraph of my 'About Me' page today."
That’s how you stop trying and start doing—by focusing on the immediate, manageable step right in front of you.
You don't have to get it perfect. You just have to get it going.
Momentum is built from a series of small wins. As a study from the American Psychological Association highlights, breaking down large goals into smaller, concrete sub-goals is critical for success. It reduces overwhelm and creates a feedback loop of accomplishment. So, instead of "start a business," your "do" might be "draft one paragraph of my 'About Me' page today."
That’s how you stop trying and start doing—by focusing on the immediate, manageable step right in front of you.
What Happens When You Finally Drop "Trying"
When you eliminate "try" from your vocabulary, a massive internal shift occurs.
You stop negotiating with your fears every morning. You stop asking for permission from others to chase your dreams. You start living like your success is inevitable.
The energy you were spending on hesitation is now channeled into creation. You will feel powerful, clear, and in motion. And that decisive energy is the very thing that attracts breakthroughs and opportunities.
Quick Exercise: Reframe Your "Trying" Statement
Take one thing you've been "trying" to do. Now, reframe it into a truth statement.
- Instead of: "I’m trying to be more confident..."
- Say: "I am becoming the woman who believes in herself."
- Instead of: "I’m trying to start a business..."
- Say: "I am building my business and learning as I go."
- Instead of: "I'm trying to get healthy..."
- Say: "I am making choices that nourish my body today."
This is more than just semantics. It’s an identity shift. You weren't made to hover in the land of "trying." You were made to do, to create, and to live fully.
Ready to Move from Try to Transformation?
If you're ready to get out of your own way, the first step is to get clarity on where you are right now. Most women who are stuck in "trying" mode are hovering in the Fear Zone or the Learning Zone.
This free quiz will help you identify what's really keeping you stuck and show you the single boldest move you can make next—no overthinking required.
Final Thoughts: Trying Is Comfortable. Deciding Is Powerful.
I see you. I see your dreams and I understand the comfort of "trying." It feels safe. But your potential isn't meant to be kept safe—it's meant to be unleashed.
Today is the day you choose. You don't have to be fearless. You just have to be done trying.
Your dream life is waiting for your decision. Are you ready?